--- title: Getting Help for Your Sex/Porn Addicted Partner - Seeking Integrity description: How can you best get help for your sex or porn addicted partner? Here are some useful tips. image: https://seekingintegrity-48262033.hs-sites.com/hubfs/Imported_Blog_Media/Better-Man-FB-Link-Size.jpg --- [![phone](https://seekingintegrity-48262033.hs-sites.com/hubfs/SeekingIntegrity_2025/Images/General/phone.svg) Get Help Now 747-234-4325 ](tel:+17473374354) [![logo](https://seekingintegrity-48262033.hs-sites.com/hubfs/SeekingIntegrity_2025/Images/General/logo.svg "logo")](https://seekingintegrity-48262033.hs-sites.com/) [![phone](https://seekingintegrity-48262033.hs-sites.com/hubfs/SeekingIntegrity_2025/Images/General/phone.svg) Get Help Now ](tel:+17473374354) ** ✕ # Getting Help for Your Sex/Porn Addicted Partner [Blog](https://seekingintegrity-48262033.hs-sites.com/blog/tag/blog) October 29, 2023 - [**](http://www.facebook.com/sharer.php?u=https://seekingintegrity-48262033.hs-sites.com/blog/getting-help-for-your-sex-porn-addicted-partner) - [**](https://twitter.com/intent/tweet?url=https://seekingintegrity-48262033.hs-sites.com/blog/getting-help-for-your-sex-porn-addicted-partner) - [**](http://www.linkedin.com/shareArticle?mini=true&url=https://seekingintegrity-48262033.hs-sites.com/blog/getting-help-for-your-sex-porn-addicted-partner) ![](https://seekingintegrity-48262033.hs-sites.com/hubfs/Imported_Blog_Media/Better-Man-FB-Link-Size.jpg) #### ![](https://seekingintegrity-48262033.hs-sites.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Imported_Blog_Media/Rob-Weiss-Headshot-Sep-29-2025-07-23-25-2872-AM.jpg?width=200&height=250&name=Rob-Weiss-Headshot-Sep-29-2025-07-23-25-2872-AM.jpg)[Dr. Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT](https://seekingintegrity.com/about-us/staff/robert-weiss-phd-lcsw/) Typically, the best way to confront a sex or porn addict is to start by saying you are concerned about their sexual behaviors and wellbeing, and you think there might be a problem. Then you should list a few of the concrete, undeniable facts that are causing you to worry. Be as specific as possible with these facts and speak using “I” statements to reduce defensiveness on the part of the addict. - I worry because you stay up late on your computer every night, and whenever I wake up to go to the bathroom, I catch you masturbating to porn or a webcam. - I’m afraid we will lose our source of income because you’ve been warned twice by your job to stop using company-owned equipment for sexual purposes, yet you continue to do it. - I’m hurt, angry, and afraid because you contracted an STD and passed it along to me, and I wonder when it will happen again. After this, you should tell your partner that you will no longer sit idly by while they ruin their (and your) life. Then you can offer to help your partner find [sex addiction treatment](https://seekingintegrity.com/sex-addiction/) and recovery. After that, it’s up to the addict as to whether they want to accept the help you’ve offered. If you think your partner might react badly to this type of intervention, do not undertake this process on your own. If you think you might be abandoned (including financially) if you undertake this process, take steps that ensure your short- and long-term security and wellbeing before confronting the addict. If you can afford it, you may want to consult an interventionist for advice and guidance. With or without the assistance of an interventionist, the goals of the initial confrontation are the same. Your purpose is to let the addict know the following: - You care about their happiness and well-being. - You are worried about their sexual behaviors, with an explanation as to why. - You will no longer co-sign or support their destructive sexual behaviors. - You hope that they will accept the help you are suggesting. It is important to remember throughout this process that you cannot get well for another person, nor can you create in that person the motivation needed to start [sexual addiction treatment](https://seekingintegrity.com/blog/understanding-the-basics-of-sex-addiction-treatment/). The choice to get well or not is the addict’s and nobody else’s. No matter how badly you want this person to recover, no matter how great your love for this person, you can’t magically make it happen. If and when the addict decides they want help, that help is available in abundance. Until then, the best that you can do is to voice your concerns and stop doing anything that enables the addiction. *** * * * * * * * * *** If you or a loved one are struggling and need sex addiction or [porn addiction rehab](https://seekingintegrity.com/porn-addiction/), Seeking Integrity can help. In addition to [residential rehab](https://seekingintegrity.com/about-us/treatment-programs/), we offer low-cost online workgroups for male sex addicts and male porn addicts new to recovery. Click [HERE](https://seekingintegrity.com/workgroups-and-lecture-series/male-sex-porn-addicts-introduction-to-healing-and-recovery/) for information on our Sex Addiction Workgroup. Click [HERE](https://seekingintegrity.com/workgroups-and-lecture-series/porn-addiction-level-1-six-week-workgroup-for-men/) for information on our Porn Addiction workgroup. We also offer online workgroups to help betrayed partners. Click [HERE](https://seekingintegrity.com/workgroups-and-lecture-series/six-week-online-workgroup-for-betrayed-partners-level-1/) for information.  ## Speak with a Seeking Integrity Staff Member Regarding Treatment [![](https://seekingintegrity-48262033.hs-sites.com/hubfs/SeekingIntegrity_2025/Images/General/Call.svg) Call 1-747-234-4325 ](tel:+17472344325) ## Contact Us If you'd like to contact us for any reason, please fill out the form and we will get back to you within 48 hours. ##### Want a Private Session? 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