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# A Perspective on Bullying

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In this thoughtful Washington Post article, Geraldine DeRuiter looks back at her experience of being bullied, and how she now feels sorry for the boy who bullied her.

[I thought my bully deserved an awful life. But then he had one.](https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/i-thought-my-bully-deserved-an-awful-life-but-then-he-had-one/2018/02/21/5c36bc94-1013-11e8-9570-29c9830535e5_story.html?utm_term=.64b097e367cd)

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